How to handle university stress

As a second year university student, I know what it feels like to have stress come at me from left, right and center... It's so awful (especially when you feel like you have no-where to turn).The stress from university compared to sixth form is kind of different to me because I actually felt like sixth form stressed me out a lot more than university did. 

I am literally prone to getting stressed a lot, so I always try to think of different ways to avoid it and here is what I found that works for me!

(Also just as a side note, these may not work for everyone but this is purely what I find which helps me. It may help you or it may not but hopefully it does).

Tip #001 - Use your personal tutors

Personal tutors are assigned to you when you start university for purely this reason. If you're stressed about upcoming assignments, presentations, exams or even just who you live with, they're there to talk to and give you guidance on what to do. With the amount of money you're paying to be in university, their help is essentially what you pay for (as well as your degree, obviously).

I don't know if this is the same for other universities but in mie you get 4 meetings every academic year with your personal tutor but you can request more just by emailing them or just finding out their open office hours (meaning you can drop by whenever in that time to talk to them).

Tip #002 - Don't bring stress into your living environment

Seriously, this is a big one. Don't bring any exam, assignment or essay stress into your living environment. I know it's tempting to stay in your bedroom, living room, kitchen or wherever to do work rather than going somewhere public to do it - but seriously this is a very helpful hint. The reason you really shouldn't do this is because if you're getting stressed about something in a specific location, your mind and body will associate that particular place with stress and whenever you go back there, you'll become stressed then not want to go there.

It's better to do work for assignments, exams, presentations or essays in a place like an on-campus library, you're surrounded by other people doing work so it'll influence you to do work as well as providing you with a pretty decent environment to do work and to not be distracted, which is another thing.

Working at home for university is always a bit of touch and go because it's full of distractions, but at the same time it's also a good thing because if you need a break then you can just stop whatever you're doing and just chill out for a little while. Basically, all in all, it's a balance for you pretty much.

Tip #003 - Give yourself regular breaks from work

This is pretty vital in all honesty. NEVER overwork yourself, no matter how much you think you work better under pressure (like I think I do, but it's been proven that I do). Regular breaks are essential because it halts the stress before it gets too much for you and your body to handle. With having regular breaks, it doesn't really mean stop for hours then resume later (although you can if you want!). It usually means do work for half an hour, break for 10 minutes and use that as a cycle pretty much.

You can do anything in these breaks, like go for a walk, play a game, listen to music, chat to some friends/family, browse the Internet for a little while, check up on social media, cuddle with a pet... The list is pretty much endless. For me, personally, I leave the room I'm working in (if I'm at home) and I go sit somewhere else with my phone and relax for a few moments. If I'm feeling particularly stressed, I'll go out for a walk since I live near a beach so I go across the front and put my headphones in.

Personally, I like this idea a lot because I like taking myself away from work just for a few moments so I don't end up being a total stress ball because I get very irritable and emotional.

Tip #004 - See a counsellor if stress is becoming a huge issue

There's nothing wrong with admitting that something's wrong. If you seek help from your wellbeing/counselling service, it's worthwhile even if you feel like you're there for a minor issue. The services there provided for you are so much help and never be afraid with requesting to see one of them if you feel like your stress is becoming a real big issue (as in your sleep is affected and so is your mood).

If you don't have a regularly available service from your university regarding wellbeing, have a few pages on their website for stress which I'll link here. They are amazing for mental health and have helped me when I've felt anxious or depressed and I love the guidance they've given for people who are potentially suffering and can't access services they need.

Tip #005 - Lecturers will help you

This is similar to tip 1, but your lecturers will help you with any essay or exam issues you're having. They'll provide you with some help for preparation but unfortunately they can't give you all the answers. They can help as much as they can, but obviously there are limits to the help they can give. 

They don't want to see you struggle and the last thing they want for you is to fail, so they'll happily offer you any help you need, whether it be related to work or mental health. They're there to help and would prefer their students to be happy with their lives and their work, rather than dreading doing assignments or feeling under the weather.

Tip #006 - Utilise your surroundings

For me, nothing beats the university stressors than going for a walk and doing productive things. Where I am for university, I live near a beach as well as in walking distance to the local town centre so it's ideal for me since I love walking. Other things I like doing are reading, going out and taking photos for my blog headers/Instagram. 
It's nice to stay in sometimes, but going out is also good because it lets you de-stress, wind down and to just really appreciate things more (in my opinion). If you're in university which you live away at and don't commute, I feel like it's nice to really take it in where you are because you're not there forever (unless you decide to live there after you graduate). 

Taking pictures of where I am currently make me happy because it really lets me think about where I live temporarily and I really like being where I am. Sometimes the stress brings me down but it'll never make me want to leave where I study.

What are some things you do that help you deal with stress?

I hope my handling stress tips helped and that you live a stress-free university life because you deserve it.

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Who We Were Before | Book Review

Whilst browsing my Kindle store at the beginning of October, I was in search of something new to read. I do like reading a lot but sometimes I either lose motivation to finish a book or things get in the way or I lost concentration... A lot of things can happen and I never actually get to finish a book.

Disclaimer: There are no spoilers in this blog post, but only mentions of what is in the book description which you can find online anywhere.

However, this was different - it ticked all the boxes for me.

 I came across Who We Were Before by Leah Mercer and I saw the front cover (as shown above) and wondered what was luring me in. I can't pin it on colour scheme because my kindle is in black and white, but I knew it was something. I'm the kind of girl who likes to read a variety of different things but lately I've been swinging to the romance kind of books because they give me such a warm and fluffy feeling inside. That, and if I've been waiting for a couple to get together I essentially fangirl inside and get all giddy because I'm happy about it.

Okay, so Who We Were Before is about a couple named Edward and Zoe, and after two years since the incident involving their son passing away, everyday seems like a struggle and nothing seems like it'll be happy again - according to Zoe. She blames herself constantly for the death of their son and Edward wants to take time and steps towards healing for them both but an unfortunate mischance sees them to be separate whilst on a trip to Gare du Nord in France. Whilst they're in France they're both wondering if they can go back to being who they were before, but can they?

Honestly, this book seemed like a mystery and I had the initial thought throughout the entire book hoping for one outcome to actually be brought with another. I'm not going to spoil anything because I want you all to see it for yourselves what is the best book I've read this year. I love a fluffy romance where everything is rosy perfect, but this book shows that not every relationship is a Disney story where everything is set in stone and nothing ever goes wrong. It displays real life dynamics and reactions to things.

The way Leah wrote the book is that it flips between different time periods, one period is present day and the other is the lead up from the beginning of their relationship. Personally, I love Zoe and Edward and how their romance started - it reminds me of the relationships you see in every day life and you don't actually sit there and think "Oh yeah, that'd never happen in real life" because these things do. The times when you go to meet someone and timings go a bit wrong and it doesn't happen, moving in with each other, having a child together, going away together... It's your every day relationship happenings and I love that Leah doesn't make the book unrealistic, nor predictable - but damn, the ending surprised me!

I would honestly recommend this book to anyone, especially those who love a good book and want to dip into a different kind of romance book and I cannot wait for more of Leah's books. A definite 10/10.

To purchase Who We Were Before (currently £8.99 on Amazon or £3.98 on Kindle/free with Kindle Unlimited), check out this link to Amazon (UK) and if you'd like to read more about Leah, check out her website here and Twitter here.

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Versatile Blogger Award

Whilst sitting in one of my university lectures earlier on, I was on Twitter and saw in my notifications that I was nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award by the lovely Caroline. (Thank-you so much for this, it put a smile on my face and brightened my really long and dull day!)

Okay, so I admit I've heard of this blogger award before and all I did when I saw them was be typical ol'me and be nosey by reading up on everyone (totally in a non-creepy way, promise!). As a quick run down for those of you who don't know what this award is, it's basically honouring the blogs/bloggers around who bring something special to your life and who show love within their writing.

Basically what I'm meant to do is tell you all 7 facts about me (kinda similar to the Liebster Award I was nominated for last month which you can read about here) but I will get on it right now, so I hope you enjoy some more facts about me!

  1. My shoe size is a UK size 4, which is kinda small now that I think about it...
  2. I'm a very indecisive person, I literally have to rely on other people's decisions for things unless I really don't want to do something.
  3. I have never watched Game of Thrones until this year and I regret waiting to watch it (it is SO good).
  4. Regardless of the time of year, I will always go to sleep in a vest top and a pair of shorts. Yep, even if it's snowing outside or the house is basically the innards of a igloo.
  5. I'm a total sock hater. (Seriously, I prefer my feet as free as possible! #freethefeetsies)
  6. When I have my own house it's gonna be a zoo since I want so many pets (as in dogs, cats, degus... It's gonna be manic I think).
  7. I've lived in a little village all my life but I really want to eventually head to the city (although I kind of love/hate village life).
These facts are totally random but hey, it's hard to think on the spot. I hope you enjoyed this post and I nominate:

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