The art of letting people do whatever they want

Hello my lovelies, and welcome back! I hope you all had a lovely week so far, and are enjoying the start of 2017.

For today's post, I wanted to talk about something serious, and by serious, I mean seriously irritating - the idea that shaming people is good. So for today, I'm going to be talking about 

"The art of letting people do whatever they want."

Now, I don't normally stick my foot in things like this with regards to articles/tweets/comments which p*ss the ever living hell out of me. I have a little moan and groan to myself, mum, friends or boyfriend then I let it go. However, I don't want to do that anymore. I've honestly had enough, and I know a lot of other people have to.

I don't really know what possesses some people to write sh*t about people who have specific fashion choices, beauty choices or whatever choice they make. It's ridiculous that people think they have the right to belittle people for things, especially if they don't like what it is they're shaming.

Nobody in the world is going to do everything you agree with, so why slam someone for it?

The first thing I'm going to talk about is beauty trends. I've seen article after article on "# beauty trends that need to die", so I've given them all a read and quite frankly - people need to get a grip. So what you think unicorn eyeliner is stupid. According to an article by Mashable, because unicorns don't exist, we should "stop drawing them on our eyes." 

Photo credit to Instagram user: giuliannaa

If I could do makeup as good as this, I would flaunt that talent like no tomorrow. Plus, this artistically looks amazing and looks like it took so much time and effort. Giulianna has an amazing talent and she's flaunting it and sharing her efforts with everyone - why shouldn't she? In life, we need to embrace the talents we have. 

From the same article, apparently Rose gold hair, watermelon hair and nebula hair also "need to die".

Photo credit to Instagram user: salonimagemd

Photo credit to Instagram user: kristi.coleman

Photo credit to Instagram user: dare_dont_care

Again, these comments piss me off, because people use things like different hair colours and styles to express their individuality. I don't know why people are so petty that hair colour is even an issue for some people. I used to dye my hair "unnatural" colours loads about a year or two ago and I did it to stand out, be original and have fun with their look, which is what these people probably want to in the photos above. It's quite cheeky of people, let alone companies, to comment on things like this. If you don't like it, don't comment on it.

Now I'm going to move onto fashion trends. These are the highlights for some people, as every person on this planet has a different fashion sense to their parents, siblings, friends, neighbours, teachers... It's going to be a thing. If we all sat there in the same colours or styles, it would be boring and wouldn't express the individuality and different tastes people have and like. My favourite article about this, is one I read today by Cosmopolitan. Upon reading this, I do at least 2 of these trends and I've never had a negative comment.

So we all know that last year, cold shoulder tops were a thing and quite frankly, I didn't like them at first. However, I gave them a shot and they're my new favourite things

I've had numerous compliments on them and actually inspired someone to start wearing them, and it's given them body confidence that they didn't know they'd ever have. Within the article, it also makes a stab at mom jeans. 

Personally, I wear leggings or tights and skirts/dresses because they fit my figure better rather than jeans, but I honestly think mom jeans look super cute, and I know other people that do, too. It's so stupid that taking a stab at an item of clothes like jeans should be attacked. They're just a piece of clothing and just because it some people don't like how they look, no stabs should be made. Fashion choices are one point for us as humans to be individual, who we are and to express ourselves and no comment should determine whether we should do this or not. If we all dressed the same way, it would be a very boring place.

Also, it makes me giggle because at the end of the article mentioned above, it says:

I'll just leave that there.

Moving onto other things besides beauty and fashion, food trends are another thing I've seen people pick fun at. When diets are concerned, don't even think about picking at it. With regards to body image, it's a very sensitive thing for people to have their choices be talked about. I know if I was dieting and people were constantly like "You don't need to diet", or "diets are stupid" in my ear, I'd kick off eventually.

beverages, brunch, cocktail

 If you want to cut out things like bread, potatoes, pasta, chocolate or whatever out of your diet - you do that sh*t. I know I don't really eat any of those that much because they bloat me extremely easily, give me a bad stomach or make my teeth feel strange (only about chocolate). I'm a sucker for eating take out and fast food, but I don't actually eat that unhealthily in my opinion.

FitBits/Fitness wristbands are next on the agenda, and apparently keeping track of your steps/fitness with something convenient is something which shouldn't happen, and also, "looking like you just came in from a run" isn't a good look.

Article: Cosmopolitan
When did fitness bracelets every look hideous? I think a lot of them look lovely, subtle and small.

 Last time I looked, people don't fork out £100+ for a piece of fitness equipment to use for fashion purposes. Fitness isn't meant to be a fashion show, and when you rock up to the gym or go for a run, people won't give two sh*ts about what you're wearing. They're watching you for admiration purposes and looking at techniques they can use for themselves.

 That, and I don't think some people realise that FitBits/fitness wristbands are actually quite good for what they do - a petty article isn't going to stop me or others using them. But hey, I'm an up-all nighter, Netflix binger university student who used FitBits and I'm happy about that. I don't need some article by a "prestigious" company/brand telling me I'm not. As I've said time and time again, if you don't like it, DON'T COMMENT ON IT.

Lastly, I'd like to talk about body confidence and body shaming. It's amazing to see people's progress photos from working out and losing weight. It's so good to see that people are feeling confident enough in themselves that they'd like to share it.

equipment, fitness, gym

Making stupid, idiotic and not needed comments about people's body image is disgusting, and I have no time for people who do this. It is definitely NOT your place to discuss people's weight or body image in a negative way. It hinders their confidence and will make them want to give up on their current progress. If someone is happy with their body, let them be. Commenting on it negatively will only make you look like a complete asshole.

Basically, the moral of this entire blog post is to stop being an ass about people's decisions they make. If they want to do make-up a certain way, dress a certain way, lose weight, go on a diet, share photos of their body for body confidence purposes - let them. It is not your place to start making snarky side comments, indirect them or "expose" them for doing what they want. 

We're humans. We don't come with an instruction book like a piece of IKEA furniture. We do what we want, when we want and shouldn't be judged.

What are some articles that have ground your gears? Do thinks like this make you want to scream for days? Let me know in the comments!

Disclaimer: Header image is not mine, it's a free stock photo. Also, credit to the owner(s) of the images used in this blog (besides 2 regarding cold shoulder tops).

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Have an amazing day!


  1. Wow I totally agree expressing yourself is like the main point of fashion and beauty! I didn't even realise people felt so strongly about fitness trackers I personally love mine. I feel like these posts are an excuse for people to pretend they are room 101 or something...

    1. It's honestly so ridiculous that people think they can shove their opinions out there and expect us to jump at the drop of a hat and follow what they sat. I love my FitBit so much, as well as my cold shoulder - not gonna be giving them up anytime soon!

      - Chloe

  2. I love, love, love this post.

    Today, we really need to hear the points you've mentioned. There's so much judgement in the world as to what's 'right' for us to eat, wear and love. When really, we should be able to dress how we want and adapt our own lifestyles.

    You've hit the nail on the end with each area. Thank you for sharing.

    1. I feel the same way and this is something which I think needs to be talked about more. We're constantly told how we should look and dress, and I've had enough. I'm so glad you liked this post lovely, it means a lot to me!

      - Chloe

  3. Chloe I feel you so so much with this post!! I think that if people don't have anything nice to say, they should just shut up! Especially with regard to beauty and hair, I would personally look ridiculous with mermaid hair, it wouldn't suit me in the slightest, but I have total admiration and respect for the girls who can pull it off! Just because it's not me, doesn't mean I have to hate on it! I wish more people thought like you!

    Abbey 💋

    1. I totally agree! It's so ridiculous that companies think they can dictate what we can and can't do. I have so much respect for people who dress, look and do things for themselves rather than letting society run their lives!

      - Chloe


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